Dating and Facebook are two words that together can certainly cause some problems.
For example, I just heard about a guy who won't "like" any of his girlfriend's pictures because he's afraid his ex-wife will get upset.
However, I also deal with so many ignorant men who make a huge deal about my height, probably to bury their own insecurity or intimidation.
They make endless unwarranted comments, trying to reassure me that I don't seem "too tall" or "too big." They'll say, "You carry it well," or "Just don't wear heels and you're fine." They act shocked when I say I'm six feet, and beg me to stand back-to-back. These comments also imply that there's a cutoff at which a woman's height becomes unattractive and unacceptable — and that luckily, I fall below it.
She can move on the same way." -- "I don't even think that [what happened to my wife] counts as 'abuse.'" -- "I can't picture that happening.
I've met [family members who abused wife]." These husbands do not mean to sound unempathic.
What happened to her has nothing to do with me and our life together." -- "She's using this as an excuse because she doesn't want to have sex." -- "How could it be that traumatic for her now?
I also know a woman whose boyfriend of over a year won't let her post pics because he doesn't want his kids to see.
Yes, focusing on what's inside is more important — but that's easier said than done.
It's hard to ignore something as obvious as height, especially if it makes a person stand out.
" I have to be honest and say that I have a real problem with this guy who wants to "stay private" in social media for several reasons. I get a lot of joy out of Facebook and seeing people's vacations, kids, inspirational quotes and funny jokes.
First, it implies that he is dating other people, which is OK if he is upfront about that. I think the message this guy is sending her is, "I don't want to be your Facebook friend because I don't want you to see what I'm doing. I believe that the biggest part of a healthy relationship is trust. It's a great office day break and a nice way to stay in touch with others. But if a guy I was dating didn't even want to be my Facebook friend, I think I would RUN (not walk) away from him. She also writes feature stories, along with the weekly dating and relationships column, Love Essentially" for Chicago Tribune Media Group local publications.