Interracial Dating Done (W)right by Andrea Wright At one point in my idealistic youth, I thought, “there’s no difference dating men of different races”. Of course, there are similarities: they are men and thus the majority of them need validation that they are able to protect, provide for you, and most importantly that they have completely won your heart. There are differences especially if you’re African American and he’s…not.
There’s usually a period of curiosity, to be fair, that goes both ways. Please put your hand down, I’m not going to high-five/fist pound you with every witty observance either of us makes.
How can you turn an awkward first date with the man of your dreams into the relationship you’ve dreamed of?
If you want to stay in control of the date and keep him interested then take it easy and don’t overindulge.
Play the Field"It's important to be in more than one community," Davis says.
"It's like being in more than one social circle." She suggests joining one mainstream site (say, e Harmony or Match.com) as well as one niche service, such as Cupidtino, which brings Apple-product obsessives together, or the unapologetically elitist Sparkology (the site's men—but not its women! "Changing sites from time to time, and then revisiting, is the best strategy," says Davis. Ace Your Profile"Your user name is going to inspire them to click," says Davis, who suggests a terminology mash-up (e.g., Sporty Smile).
I like to imagine men I've dated relaying our relationship to his children and grandchildren: the one that got away, that beautiful, wise African American princess who taught me so much!
Expectations: if you choose to date someone of a different race, you may get stares and a few noises of disapproval as you walk along hand in hand with your beloved—even today, but do your best to ignore it.