I grew up in a household where violence was never an issue.
We never discussed it beyond the general basics most children learn, no one is allowed to physically harm you, make sure you tell us if you are being bullied, and never bully or physically hurt anyone else.
I was the girl who would say with pride that I would never let anyone, especially a boyfriend, hit me. He opened up to me immediately sharing the struggles with his family life growing up. He told me how his father was abusive to his mother and he hated him for it.
I knew that it existed in the world and I knew it was bad if it happened, but I had no idea it was called Domestic Violence, and I definitely had no idea how deeply dangerous, manipulative, gradual and lonely being abused was, until I met Phil. With the amazing upbringing I had experienced it was difficult for me to imagine living in a violent environment.
Unfortunately, it was the work of my rather stupid associate.
A loyal employee but not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
I had a large close-knit group of girlfriends, I am close to my parents, brother, sister, aunts, uncles, and cousins.
Elin's commitment and important endeavors, that Jimmy describes in his timely comment, are increasing public awareness nationally about teen dating violence and prevention.
Perhaps the articles that Elin has published on the subject of teen dating violence and prevention, her book Tornado Warning, and recent speaking engagements in community schools may provide some consolation and hope to the family and friends of Yeardley Love.
If you've been involved in a violent intimate partnership, whether it's heterosexual, gay, or lesbian, write what happened and I'll publish your story.
You may find it cathartic and you'll be helping others who may also have gone through the same thing, others who believe they're alone in what they went through.