i speak from many years of experience as an older, introverted short man with a shaved head who’s only redeeming quality when it comes to attractiveness is being in excellent physical shape.better to just accept the fact that not everyone is capable of finding mutually fulfilling companionship and to get used to living alone without physical intimacy than to subject one’s self to the inevitable frustrations and failures of OLD-not to mention the expense.Think about a woman in her 40s that wants to date and lives in a suburb with kids, has a full-time job and whose friends are all married; it can be hard for someone like that to meet men.Online dating allows her to essentially create a love life from scratch.
I really feel that we are moving towards the next level in our relationship and I continue to listen to “Why He Disappeared” on a weekly basis to keep myself grounded.
So, when there’s so much information out there that tells women to be feminine and receptive, when there are entire books which teach women to let men do the courting, when the core piece of my advice in “Why He Disappeared” is to “Do nothing,” how can anyone, with a straight face, claim that it’s smart for women to make the first move online? So it is no contradiction to tell women that yes, you should let a man court you – call, plan, pay, and otherwise respond enthusiastically to his calls, emails and texts at the beginning… There was always something else more pressing – or someone else more aggressive or entertaining.
and ALSO be the first person to initiate contact online. So, please do yourself the favor of reading this latest Ok Cupid study, which validates everything I’ve said for 13 years.
the old “confidence is attractive” thing is only true if there is also a physical connection-otherwise the man comes off as a creep to the vast majority of women.
besides, without any inkling of success, how does one even sustain any semblance of confidence in the first place?