Be particularly cautious if he's already looking for Spouse #2. Periods of adjustment are to be expected, especially if things heat up.We all need time to heal and don't want to plunge blindly into the rebound relationship. But extreme discomfort, acting out, and outright interference may signal issues just beneath the surface. We would be wise to observe their reactions, heed their reasoned warnings, and consider their hesitation. If you each have children at different stages -- for example, your kids are in elementary school and his are in college -- anticipate some potential problems if you're hoping for a long-term relationship.___A woman who goes by the name “Lucky” responded to one of my Single Dad Wants posts with a moving and impassioned comment that’s too long to reprint here (scroll down for it). Your man, your divorced dad, is lucky to have someone so understanding.As I was writing my response, I realized I was writing my next post about relationships. And while I only have limited experience with being on the dad’s side, I do have a little knowledge of what you speak.There are plenty of single parents who use their kids to get out of almost every obligation. exercise, dating, taking responsibility for their own actions.
In case you're wondering, one divorced dad swept me off my feet (then dropped me over a ledge). However the first 6 months there were a lot more hurdles to overcome, which led to the relationship breaking down. Yes, I knew that he was divorced and had two children, but just knowing that he did want kids was to overcome the first hurdle of dating him.'Divorce' and 'dad' were two huge grown-up concepts for one very single woman.Even though I was 39, neither marriage nor motherhood had ever featured in my life and so I had no idea what to expect.