It didn’t matter how skinny I was, I was the big 4-1.
I was officially “middle aged” and in need of Botox and eye glass “readers.” Why would someone want me when they could have one of the million 30 year olds living in the city? I felt like a failure: I managed to screw up the most serious relationship I ever had. I couldn’t even manage to save my marriage for the sake of my two very young children. There’s a lot of guilt and self-hatred that goes with getting divorced.
The closer we get to our own innate joy (even when alone) the more we are able to recognize the same joy in others.
And it’s a process—we don’t emerge from divorce happy and hopeful.
At e Harmony, we understand that dating after divorce can be challenging, even if the split was amicable.
That’s why we take time to really get to know you and find out what you’re looking for in a new partner.
With our unique Relationship Questionnaire, we take the time to really get to know you, so that we can introduce you to people who share more than just your relationship status.
Our matches are based on several dimensions of compatibility, so you’ll be one-step closer to finding someone who you’ll really want to meet.
She’s busy, or she might have just started working again. And lastly, the recently separated woman is dating again. Most would say they see themselves as being more attractive, right? But, let me take you into the mind of the recently separated 40 something woman. I had zero self esteem when it came to my professional ability, and figured the only skills I had now were diaper changing, bottle feeding and house cleaning.Being someone who lost about 10 pounds right off the bat, I felt anything but pretty and sexy and confident. When I got separated, I temporarily became a person who doesn’t define who I really am. I was very stressed because I now had to think about what I was going to do for work, with no current computer skills and no belief in myself. I was coming out of a toxic situation: I think when two people are in an unhappy, unhealthy marriage, (which could be for years) both are losing self-worth every minute they stay together. Because you are around this person constantly who you think hates you, or who is belittling you, or who you know doesn’t want to be with you anymore, or who is condescending, or mean.Or, maybe you are the one who wants out of the marriage.Steer clear of the hottie in the black dress with the angry eyes and enhanced frown.She’s packing heat of a variety we’re much too familiar with from our 11 years of marriage, six of them happy.