I know this is wrong and that I should only get advice from people who tithe regularly and vote the right way but I have taken all the advice below and find that I am still single.
If you want to write a guest post, send it here.) Despite my passion for christian dating values and practices I must admit that sometimes I’ve considered turning to the “world” aka COSMOPOLITAN for dating advice.
Marriage shows the relationship between Christ and the church. Two sinful people are united into one and they commit to each other in everything. When you hear about Christians living in sexual sin they are false converts and not truly saved. If you get into a relationship with an ungodly person they will slow you down. I know it hurts, but God uses this situation to work in a believers life to conform them into the image of His Son and build their faith. ” Sometimes we are not ready financially, spirituality, in maturity, or it’s just not God’s will yet.
It shows how Christ loved the church and laid down His life for her. No one besides the Lord will come before the person you are going to marry. You have to say no to everyone else when it comes to your spouse. Do you listen to His conviction or do you do what you want to do? Run to Christ and whoever is keeping up with you introduce yourself. God will replace the person He has taken away with someone better. You must keep your eyes on Christ and pray for His peace and comfort when you are single because you will kill yourself if you are constantly thinking about it. Sometimes God uses singleness to drive you in prayer.
“But he’s nice.” If you haven’t consulted God about it that means that you haven’t asked Him if the person you have met is the person He wants you to marry. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. “Oh Lord may this relationship honor your name” and this should be our mindset going into marriage. She is always going to be his precious little baby in his eyes. Now Imagine how much greater is the love of a holy God. She’s not a husbands must live with your wives in an understanding manner, as with a most delicate partner. I don’t believe kissing is sinful, but I believe it can be. Anything that leads you to indulge in sexual thoughts is sinful. It’s not good to seek a relationship with someone you are not physically attracted to.
Christian dating does not consist of casual dating, which is unbiblical. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not conceited, does not act improperly, is not selfish, is not provoked, and does not keep a record of wrongs. To marry and be a representation of Christ and the church. “Oh Lord I want to love and lay down my life for someone just like you loved and laid down your life for me.”Are you able to leave your mother and father? The love between a father and his daughter is so great. Imagine His seriousness if you lead His daughter down the wrong path. Honor them as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing may interfere with your prayers. If you feel the temptation just stop don’t lie to yourself. Kissing for a long period of time with someone who you are not married to is wrong, it is a form of foreplay, and it will cause you to fall. Waiting and disciplining yourself in many areas will make your sexual relationship in marriage more unique, special, godly, and intimate. This is something that you should really pray about and listen to the Lord. I’ve heard some guys say, “I can handle it I’m strong enough.” No you’re not! If God blesses you with a very beautiful godly woman or handsome man that is OK, but looks are not everything. Look for godliness because a husband is to one day be your spiritual leader.
This type of dating will leave you broken and all over the place and I’m not even talking about sex. Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. Do you have any responsibilities or are your parents paying for everything? Is there kissing in the Bible that applies to dating? It is a good idea when Christians don’t kiss before marriage because when you kiss there is no going back you can only go a step farther. The desires for the opposite sex are so strong that we are told to run. If you are looking for a supermodel you must know that extreme pickiness is not good and also there is a strong chance that you are not a supermodel. Look for his love for the Lord and the advancement of His kingdom.
Stop over praying and overanalyzing and start asking!
After you go out, call her again and ask her out again. Then if you decide that it just isn’t there, be straightforward.