On day one of my Vancouver bootcamp, I ask the students, “Do you like Asian girls? If they don’t, I say “that’s fine, but you’re missing out.”Of all the women I’ve ever approached or had my students approach, Asian (Chinese, Japanese, Korean) in Canada are the most awkward, socially uncalibrated, shy and rude. I’m just talking about girls you might introduce yourself to on the street, or at a bar. But based off my experience and how strange most of them act towards me, I won’t usually bother approaching them.
Now before you scream that I’m racist and misogynistic, realize I’m not speaking in absolutes. I’ve been conditioned that they will reject me before I get three words out. I know many of my students would love to date Asian girls, but they are usually too closed off and awkward and afraid to give them a shot. Oh, Indian, Phillipino, and other “Asian” girls don’t have this issue.
I’m only speaking from six years of personal experience. I’m assuming that cultural upbringing has everything to do with a girl’s approachability. It’s pretty much exclusive to Chinese, Japanese and some Koreans.
I’ve approached and spoken thousands of women of all shades, and Asian girls in N. It’s not always the case with women who grew up in N. But from what I’ve heard, in China you are taught to be seen not heard, never show public displays of affection, avoid eye contact, and be quiet. In my experience, Latin girls: Mexicans, Brazilians, Columbians, etc. And honestly I’m not thinking this through at a deep level.
im cbc chinese canadian too and prefer local cbc girl but u get what u can get hey lolwell, if you are a canadian born chinese then how come the english that you type here sounds not english enough. If a girl is Asian and brought up in Canada, they grow accustomed to the western ways and away from the traditional Asian ways.
i dunno like when you say "what your experience" shouldn't that be "what's your experience? and i get that US born filipino girls would prefer white guys than foreign born filipino guys or US born filipino guys. my female cousin who moved here when she was only 7, she doesn't want asian guys. Most of them have parents who weren't brought up in Canada, and they don't want to be like their parents.
i find the esl foreign girls are a lot more friendler , open to dating and meeting stranger, and easier to get number. this not just at coffee shops, malls but even at my local cross fit gym i started going. Besides most asian women prefer white men because they are taller and maybe kinder. I remember a few foreign visitors tell me not to date women here and go back to my own country to marry. I am not saying all North America women are bad but it will difficult to please a woman here, just look at the divorce foreign women easier to get than local asian girls.This is an important stepping stone in a relationship (any relationship). So for example if you are in Toronto and you both love visiting art galleries make a weekly effort to go many of Toronto's art galleries. This is something you do later, after the relationship is already serious and you are perhaps even living together. Don't assume that because they are Asian that they speak other Asian languages too - like asking a Japanese person if they also speak Korean or Chinese.This connection will cement the idea that you two really do have things in common and are not so different as society would like you to believe. Do NOT Get Language Lessons - Honestly, this is one of the worst things you can do. In fact, don't assume they even speak Japanese unless they say they do. Don't Make A Big Deal of your Language Skills - Lets pretend you already know how to speak Japanese, Korean, Mandarin, Cantonese, Vietnamese, etc.Jessica is a Media Production student at Ryerson University.She loves Indian food, Netflix, and funny cat pictures.